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Do you realize how awful that is.....I wish I had told him to get lost then, but, then I would have felt guilty. Now, I really have had enough.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
I would set up a living trust with a 3rd party as the controller with a stipulation that if any money ends up in the hands of you SIL, the remainder of the trust’s assets shall be distributed to charities.
2024 Genesis G90 Super-Charger
2020 Acura RDX tech SH-AWD, 2023 Maverick hybrid Lariat luxury package.
2020 Acura RDX tech SH-AWD, 2023 Maverick hybrid Lariat luxury package.
I would set up a living trust with a 3rd party as the controller with a stipulation that if any money ends up in the hands of you SIL, the remainder of the trust’s assets shall be distributed to charities
That is a good analysis of how bad saying such a thing is. The 3rd party trust idea is a good one....we did that, mainly to protect our daughter. I told our financial advisers about his early inheritance plan, and they laughed their heads off at it.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
It is a real case of afluenza....he has been given everything in life, so he never had to earn it. At one time I thought he had a great set up being given everything....but, all it did was makes him useless.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
When HIS father, my grandfather Federico, was about 75, (the old man was born in Italy and came here in his 20s) he gathered all 6 children together and announced; "I am very ill. I will die soon. What I will do is give everything I own to the 6 of you now, --I will sell the house, the business ( hardware store in NY), everything---and in return, I will live with each of you, for a period of 6 months, starting with the oldest child. Chances are the youngest will never have to care for me".
Well, wouldn't you know he lived to be 96---LOL!
So every Christmastime, at the big family dinner, the old man, blind, deaf, wobbly, would rise from the table, raise his glass (he could consume considerable quantities of wine and cigars) and say:
la morte mi ha tradito (Death has cheated me!)
And my dad said that one could hear, in very low muttering around the table: "Death has cheated YOU?"
While you're at it, throw in another character...a dog named Gogo.
jmonroe
'15 Genesis V8 with Ultimate Package and '18 Legacy Limited 6 cyl
jmonroe
It is Fifi.....I mean Gigi.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
Whenever we spend money these days....like to go to Wimbledon, I tell my wife we are not paying for this trip.....our children are paying, it comes out of their inheritance.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
2019 Kia Soul+, 2015 Mustang GT, 2013 Ford F-150, 2000 Chrysler Sebring convertible
2024 Genesis G90 Super-Charger
We know what JM means - “...the names were changed to protect the innocent...” - an old Dragnet concept!
2024 Genesis G90 Super-Charger
Also consider that there is their side of the story and that either there is a rational explanation of why they did that or that she has rationalized his actions. so that any criticism will be met with "you just don't understand".
Finally people do know the faults of their spouses and still love them despite those faults and any complaint about them isn't going to do any good. You also have to understand that with many people they will stand by their spouse and will take the stance that if their spouse isn't welcomed then they aren't either.
I would talk with both and let them know that I was not happy with their actions and would prefer that things like that would not happen again. Doing it in a non accusatory way, then take steps to make sure it doesn't like change codes and hide keys while away. But that's just me.
In conclusion tread carefully if you want to maintain good relations with the daughter.
Good luck.
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
All I can do is politely say I don't want anything more to do with him. I will be civilized in public or family functions, but, other than that I want nothing to do with him.
btw.....she is the perfect victim for a con man, she is honest and naive.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
He is part of the reason I adopted my new philosophy....I am trying to stay one step ahead of him.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
We’ve got to talk about 7,500 miles in your ownership period of your “new Genny.” I think it is th color. Trade that sucker in for a new Cabarnet Red V8 powered G90 and you’ll put more miles on it. Either that or convince MRS J that she needs to ditch her Legacy for a Genny of her own.
@driver100 - Steve, I can’t believe how low your piece of trash son in law stooped. I don’t envy your position at all. Unfortunately I’ve learned in my short 42 years on this earth that the right thing and the easy thing are almost never the same. You’ve put up with his crap for long enough.
@abacomike - enjoy your time with your grandson. One thing I’ve always been thankful for is the fact that I had 2 parents and 4 grandparents growing up. My kids too. There really is nothing like having a relationship with your grandparent or grandchild.
@xwex - it’s difficult enough raising kids these days in any capacity! You and your wife are doing an exemplary job. Just the fact that you both care so much in your own way speaks volumes.
2001 Prelude Type SH, 2022 Highlander XLE AWD, 2025 Camry SE AWD
I don’t watch TV news except for CBS This Morning on Sunday mornings and 60 Minutes. I don’t need the rest to tell me what to think or what their opinion is. I’m capable of that on my own.
I do read a lot of newspapers and publications....(Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Chicago Tribune). Hell, I don’t even read my local paper anymore. It’s a shell of what it used to be and the only thing I need from it are sports scores, which I can find on my phone. I read a lot of business and tech pubs (Forbes, Wired, etc).
The last series I think I watched was while I was still married, 3-4 years ago. She liked to watch “Shameless” with William H Macy (who was outstanding). It’s a pretty brutally, over the top show about the foibles of an Irish family living in the south side of Chicago living most of their lives screwing up. Pretty graphic in all aspects, though. Actually, it’s a show some would find distasteful. I rather liked it, but the she loved it. Of course, she also loved the Bachelor and Bachlorette. I would watch that with her and I could feel my IQ drop every moment I watched it.
Home Run Derby was fun last night. I do like the Planet Earth Series (especially in 4K).
I am watching more and more movies in 4K in my home theater. Pretty spectacular what they’re doing with surround sound (Atmos) and picture quality these days.
2013 LX 570 2016 LS 460
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
We're still reeling from the loss of a family member - our Pomeranian Cotey.
We have our son from Tucson for several more days - we enjoy his visits and we've enjoyed showing him some of southern New Mexico's outdoor delights - we're blessed to have the Sacramento Mountains just to our east to go explore and capture some of the Pacific Northwest back again. It's amazing - from the desert of Alamogordo and White Sands National Monument to Alamo and then 16 miles east up the mountain and we've got elk, deer, bobcat, cougar, bear and coyote, trees and streams and hiking trails to view them from. Ruidoso often has herds of deer hanging out downtown along with many Texans escaping the heat.
2021 Kia Soul LX 6-speed stick
I do hope that everything works out for you and your daughter. But remember protect you and your wife first and be there for your daughter if she needs it.
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
2024 Genesis G90 Super-Charger
My wife watches the bachelor and now there is an even better show after it where people compete to be proposed to by someone they never met. My question is where do they find people that would degrade themselves like that?
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
2024 Genesis G90 Super-Charger
2017 Nissan Sentra
SR TURBO 4dr Sedan (1.6L 4cyl Turbo 6M)
Found this pup using the Edmunds used car search tool. This one's at a Phoenix dealer so it's a bit over 500 miles away, but it would be worth it. 6-speed manual SR Turbo with only 7,686 miles on it. 188hp - it's heading to auction soon. Humm...probably be taking the kid back to Tucson on my next 4 days off starting on Saturday morning.
$13,573
Mileage:
7,686 miles
Ext. Color:
Gun Metallic
Int. Color:
Charcoal Premium Cloth
Engine:
Gas
Drive Type:
Front Wheel Drive
Transmission:
Manual
VIN#:
3N1CB7AP9HY206207
Stock#:
BB3344
My boss just bought one in Las Cruces but her's is an Altima. Same color, though. I like the lines and dimensions of the Sentra most out of all the new Nissan's.
2021 Kia Soul LX 6-speed stick
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
2017 Cadillac ATS Performance Premium 3.6
2020 Acura RDX tech SH-AWD, 2023 Maverick hybrid Lariat luxury package.
That's what I'm wondering too, stick!
2021 Kia Soul LX 6-speed stick
First three days can be described as horror. The left side of the road and intersections were actually the least terrifying aspects, except perhaps multilane roundabouts, where I may sometimes have not been a model driver. I was honked only three times over that period, which I consider a personal triumph. HOWEVER, the vehicle width and depth perceptions was all messed up. Right is left, left is right, everything had to be relearned. And Passat is a pretty large vehicle (should have gotten a Golf or Focus). Within 30 MINUTES I hit a trash can, dislodged the passenger (right) mirror and scratched the front quarter panel. I made a mistake of picking the car in the dusk, which meant I drove it on narrow streets of Edinburgh (to get to my hotel) after dark. It was a miracle I did not hit more. So I drove my car with passenger mirror out of alignment, but fortunately I was not using multilane roads, so it didn't matter. Other things did.
Day one - terrified of every vehicle coming from the opposite lane, including Smart
Day two - terrified of trucks and buses coming
Day three - still uncomfortable with buses.
BTW, the roads there are narrow, commonly with 10 ft or so lanes and no shoulder. On those days I ended up kissing the curb many times (as you'll naturally drift away from oncoming traffic, especially if you don't have a good feel for the width of the vehicle), but fortunately the curbs were low and the tires were high enough, so it was only an uncomfortable "kick", rather than all out grinding of the rims.
By day four I generally got decent handle of it, enough not to be scared all the time. I still had sometimes uncomfortable moments, when my weak left hand couldn't feel the shifter too well on gear reductions, making me slow down too much and delay taking off on some roundabouts, but it wasn't too bad, just not too smooth. Anyway, I would still avoid driving on the left side of the road in cities and after dark, but country was alright. Overall it was exhausting, though.
On other subject - the Passat (it was a diesel, rather base version, but still some decent equipment) was OK, but its entertainment and media center was completely baffling. I could not figure out a consistent way to make it play navigation directions from my phone: one time it would do nothing, another it would silence the podcast feed, but still not say anything, another time it would actually play the directions through the speakers. For the life of me, I didn't know how to make it do it every time. It was something about streaming through the USB vs. Bluetooth, but only God and Hans knew what the exact settings were.
2018 430i Gran Coupe
Mike...someone should worry about me. I certainly worry about myself.
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
I haven't spent any seat time in a JL, but from what I've read it has much more civilized on-road behavior while retaining the off-road capability that Wranglers are known for. As to amenities, the new JL can be equipped with a full set of Helen Keller "driver's aids" as well as LED lighting, heated seats, navigation, and a decent "premium" audio system.
Mine: 1995 318ti Club Sport-2020 C43-1996 Speed Triple Challenge Cup Replica
Wife's: 2021 Sahara 4xe
Son's: 2018 330i xDrive
Somehow I avoided hitting anything in 5 days. But I did get smart and not drive into Dublin.
Next time, I am getting the smallest car they have. Something like a polo, maybe an up. But with a Stick!
2020 Acura RDX tech SH-AWD, 2023 Maverick hybrid Lariat luxury package.
https://www.listingallcars.com/srp/?l=88310&d=200&co=u&yl=2017&yh=2018&m=Nissan&mo=Sentra&tt=m
2019 Kia Soul+, 2015 Mustang GT, 2013 Ford F-150, 2000 Chrysler Sebring convertible
Fame I don't want I like anonymity, glory should go to someone else and there is not enough money out there to get me on one of those shows.
How about those Naked and Afraid shows? Not only would they get to see your shortcomings but you'd be on display all bug-bitten and sick.
2019 Kia Soul+, 2015 Mustang GT, 2013 Ford F-150, 2000 Chrysler Sebring convertible
Jeep Wrangler -- I, too, would only be interested in a 2 door. And I would definitely rent one for a few days before buying.
@driver100 -- I think your wife is a very wise woman, and has given you some very good, solid advice. Glad to see you accepting it. I also understand about being very angry, and needing to vent.
@abacomike -- if you can sell your idea for a TV series to one of the networks, I will be watching!
@iluvmysephia1 -- yes, things are also quieter around my house. I had a trial visit this weekend with the really big dog that I had posted about before, the half lab half newfoundland. That did not work out well.
'11 GMC Sierra 1500; '98 Alfa 156 2.0TS; '08 Maser QP; '67 Coronet R/T; '13 Fiat 500c; '20 S90 T6; '22 MB Sprinter 2500 4x4 diesel; '97 Suzuki R Wagon; '96 Opel Astra; '11 Mini Cooper S
Unfortunately, the situation did not end well. I wrote an email to my daughter saying there was no excuse for taking someone's car etc, and I did say the S-I-L would find his wallet, because he didn't really lose it. My wife went there today to visit, they were both there, they told her my email was rude and they don't want to talk to me any more.
I know the SIL has control over her and has told her all kinds of lies about how I cheated him, and he shut any discussion down before I could have a say. I am glad to get rid of him, I can now sleep at night, she wants to believe in him, and that is her life. She is living a lie with a big phony, but, if that is what she wants to do, that is OK with me.
My wife is taking it very hard, but, she also knows I couldn't have done anything else.
It is OK, you don't have to console me....I am OK with moving on, but, I really do appreciate your comments and excellent advice.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
I noticed in London, a lot of cars have the left front wheels and discs all scraped up....I think a lot of people hit the curbs especially when parking in those tiny spaces over there.
2017 MB E400 , 2015 MB GLK350, 2014 MB C250
Then there's this:
http://www.sun-sentinel.com/local/broward/fort-lauderdale/fl-sb-lauderdale-fatal-mom-beating-20180716-story.html
From beautiful, sunny Ft. Lauderdale (no more freezing in the cold up North),
"ort Lauderdale woman who said she was angry about not receiving an inheritance beat her mother, who later died from her injuries, police say.
Gabriela Perero, 53, is facing charges of premeditated murder and aggravated battery on a person 65 years of age or older. She was denied bond during a court hearing Monday.
Perero told police she had been temporarily living with her 85-year-old mother, Luisa Perero, at the mother’s condo in the 600 block of Tennis Club Drive.
She said she became enraged that her siblings received an inheritance while she was caring for her mother and was left out, the police report said.
2014 Malibu 2LT, 2015 Cruze 2LT,
Back in 2009 when I was thinking of getting an '09 Genny, I was in Son #1's family room discussing the car since it was just introduced and it had gotten some kind of an award. I think it was North American Car of the Year Award. Anyway after talking about it for about 15 minutes, Mrs. j jumps up and says something like, "I don't want to hear anymore about getting a new car we don't need a car" and she leaves the room putting her hands over her ears. After about and hour of talking about the cars specs from a brochure I picked up at a dealer and him looking at info online, I've pretty much convinced myself that I'm going to get one in Cabernet Read Pearl with a V8. Just have to see who has it at the right price. Like I said we discussed this car for about an hour and I remember my Son saying, "that seems like a nice car and even though the V8 cost more, there is no sense in going half way by getting the V6". Then he says, "do you really think you should be spending your grandkids inheritance like that"? Too late, I had already made up my mind. I know my Son and I know he was kidding but it was humorous to me and Mrs. j when she heard about it.
Being the grandparents of 5 (4 boys and a girl), we try to have a good time with them, which of course means spending money sometimes. We don't think we over do it but we immensely enjoy watching them have a good time with what we give them. We'd rather see them enjoy it while we can still see it because we know nothing down the road is guaranteed. For us this is the way to do it but everyone has to do it their own way and I'm sure you will have some left over for your grandchildren too.
jmonroe
'15 Genesis V8 with Ultimate Package and '18 Legacy Limited 6 cyl
I give my son $100 each month to help him with his health insurance premiums and just before he leaves to go home to Palm Desert, I give him a check for a few thousand dollars because I know he needs it. He works 12+ hours every day and part of every Saturday. Why not see him and my grandchildren enjoy what I provide them rather than have him spend his inheritance when I am gone. If my surviving daughter had any kind of normal relationship with me, I would do the same for her. I have offered to pay her way down here but she refuses. Her loss, my son’ and grandsons”s gain!
Most importantly, it gives me pleasure!
I wonder how he’ll (my son) react to my 2018 S450? He will probably say, “.. enjoy the new car Dad...”!
2024 Genesis G90 Super-Charger
https://www.carfax.com/VehicleHistory/p/Report.cfx?partner=DEY_0&vin=3N1CB7AP9HY206207
hope the link works
2011 Hyundai Sonata, 2014 BMW 428i convertible, 2015 Honda CTX700D
2018 430i Gran Coupe