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Good luck getting compensation from an airline. I think they should give discounts on future flights for every delay, about $50 an hour for our time.
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Besides, if we aren't driving to and from Florida, I might get a C Class next time.
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My defense will be my computer glitched that day
jmonroe
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jmonroe
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I would tread carefully, though, on severing relations with your daughter.
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And, I wouldn't say that I am "extremely adept." I tend to be fairly analytical, so I just try to be practical about acting on my observations and conclusions. ASD is such a tricky "disorder" because that spectrum can manifest itself in so many ways; each child is different in how the condition affects them and what approaches get through. He visited several professionals when he was very young, and they all had their opinions about how best to parent them, but honestly I just felt like they were trying to make us into their personal marionettes. I appreciated the information as I gained more respect for the depth of the challenges I had to deal with day to day (which often times were just annoying/frustrating to me in the context of a "normal child"), so it wasn't all a loss there.
My son is very strong on verbal communication - he was speaking full sentences at fifteen months - but he also doesn't know when to zip it. I think he's starting to learn that now, slowly, but it puts up a major barrier to communicating with others (perhaps ironically?) because they don't want to listen to him blather on about every detail of some topic of interest to him without ever being able to get a word in edgewise! It is a particular barrier with his age group, and it doesn't help that he's typically smarter than five of them together, so his interests don't align either. It's tricky for him....
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It seems like your actions so far are the most reasonable approach: You made it quite clear that they leaped over a line there, and they are not welcome to do so again. In fact, you set the line a lot closer to their side of the court just to drive home that point. I'm not sure how or if you can break through that strong sense of entitlement in one-or-both of them, but my approach would be to let bygones be bygones at this point and keep an open mind for what comes next.
I have had nearly all of my siblings and siblings-in-law do something of a similar scale as this. They know what they did, and they have to live with it. I don't bring it up and don't let it play into our future interactions, but they also darn sure know that they'll never do it again or ask me for another favor unless they figure out a way to make amends now (in some cases this means a decade or two down the road from when it occurred....). Overall, I much prefer to have the relationship than worry/fume over what was lost.
Then I thought, wouldn't it be funny if he did get knocked off and someone realized I wrote that. Then I would be posting from jail, but at least no more scamster in my life.
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The last time daughter emailed her mother she said we will sit down when you get back..........if that gets arranged might as well do it, if not, I would go with your plan.....which technically is better, but, there is a reason I think it is better if she initiates it.
The reason being....I said something very powerful in my email to her....I said he will mysteriously find his licence very shortly because I know him, and he won't want to apply for his license, health card, credit cards again (since he doesn't do much work anyway). Within a few days he will find his wallet. I said I have heard his stories and excuses over the years, so I know how it works. He did find it the next day. That is the first shred of evidence she actually knows about now.....so, I want to see what happens.
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First though, yes, he could have rented a car but the thing about the S-I-L is, he is incompetent. Our daughter leaves early in the morning and travels about 30 miles out of town for work. Maybe she was going to take the Lexus that day so he could pick up his mother in the Mercedes, that is what they usually do....though if we were here my good hearted wife usually takes his mother for the once a month eye appointment. He probably had an appointment for 11 with his 2008 Lexus, and thought they could fix it right away, but, when they told him it would take a day he only had a bit of time to find a white Mercedes GLK.
He wouldn't rent a car or take a taxi....won't spend money on things like that. Will spend $500 to go to a hockey game though.
It was a great post because you said the best approach is to let bygones be bygones. That is what I have done for about 5 years now even though he scammed us and others through our business. But, this was the final straw.....it is impossible to let bygones be bygones when someone like this who has no conscience basically steals your car. Once you let it go he will do something again....it means nothing to him, the end justifies the means as far as he is concerned.
If there is a small misunderstanding, I would agree, try to let it go, it isn't worth the aggravation, and sometimes a small thing gets blown out of proportion.
I would definitely try that first, but, I tried it for 5 years and then he pulls this whopper and thinks nothing of it.
What if I woke up with a tooth ache and my car wouldn't start? Would I go to his house and take his car? Geez, I can't imagine someone even thinking of doing it. Rent a car, take a cab, call a friend......if he could get to his mothers in a taxi he could have used her car.
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I like sticks method. I like to present the facts as honestly as I can. Then the daughter can make her choice. That way I have done everything I possibly can do....if she still wants to believe the con man, or abuser, or good for nothing loser, then that is her choice....I won't like it, but, I can only do what I can do.
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Driver.....WOW! I think I would have a long, sincere and stern chat with the SIL. That’s wrong on so many levels. Your car, regardless of his relationship to you. To me, that’s a “no-no”! And, no one an blame you if you tell him in no uncertain terms how you feel.
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Case in point: I used to get into arguments with my wife because she didn't (perhaps still doesn't) like my driving policy of not stopping/swerving for dogs that run out into the road to chase cars. I'll slow for them, but I won't stop, and I won't swerve. We had lots of "near misses" over the years with the dogs gaining just enough sense to avert collision at the last moment. Then, a new neighbor moved in a few houses up from me with a dog that was unbelievably belligerent about car chasing, to the point that one morning one of my other neighbors almost swerved into me as I left the area for work because that dog leapt out at them and they tried to avoid it.
A few days later, we're driving home and the dog jumps out at us. I was going about fifteen. I hit it, dog bounces off the bumper, screams bloody murder, and runs away. My wife was infuriated with me at first. Later, I checked with the owners to inform them of the strike for awareness, but the dog was fine.
Never again did it chase a car. I was happy, wife was happy, and dog was happy (and alive).
Sounds like it's time to break your SIL of his sense of entitlement, and I think you might need to work with HIS parents so you all come out ahead. Tricky situation, though, so proceed slowly and, whatever you do, don't swerve.
After about 25 minutes of this on the phone, I had to stop him and asked to speak with his mother. Whew!!!
My son does not have the patience needed to work with my grandson as you do. He concentrates more on the 17 year old boy who is on his way to college on several scholarships. His mother is even worse, which was the major cause of his divorce. They have shared custody, but that environment is not a healthy one for the boy. Whatever time my son has after his 12 hour work days shortchanged his youngest son because he devotes so much time and energy for the older son.
That’s why I am so keen on spending three straight days with my youngest grandson.
I noticed on the itinerary from American Airlines that the two of them were not seated together on the first leg of their flight home. So I called my son to inform him that I would pay for the preferred seating on that flight so they could sit together. Having Aspergers, I thought that sitting next to two strangers in his row of seating might be too stressful for him. So they are now seated together on that flight.
Thanks all for your patience on this long post. My apologies.
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However, you sobered me right up with what followed! I will admit that I had days like that. However, I also have an incredible wife who has given so much more to our son than most of us would ever give to all our children, let alone just one. She has certainly had the most positive impact on him; I just add my parts where I can. I don't always agree with her methods, and she rarely agrees with mine, but together we get it done.
After about 25 minutes of this on the phone, I had to stop him and asked to speak with his mother. Whew!!!
My son does not have the patience needed to work with my grandson as you do. He concentrates more on the 17 year old boy who is on his way to college on several scholarships. His mother is even worse, which was the major cause of his divorce. They have shared custody, but that environment is not a healthy one for the boy. Whatever time my son has after his 12 hour work days shortchanged his youngest son because he devotes so much time and energy for the older son.
That’s why I am so keen on spending three straight days with my youngest grandson.
I noticed on the itinerary from American Airlines that the two of them were not seated together on the first leg of their flight home. So I called my son to inform him that I would pay for the preferred seating on that flight so they could sit together. Having Aspergers, I thought that sitting next to two strangers in his row of seating might be too stressful for him. So they are now seated together on that flight.
Thanks all for your patience on this long post. My apologies.
Don't worry about our patience, we can take it. Glad both you and @xwesx are comfortable in letting it out in here.
jmonroe
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jmonroe
Here I go, agreeing with Monroe again. But, I give anyone who raises children who have a disability such as Aspergers a lot of credit. I found it difficult enough to cope with life just trying to get through with children who didn't have a real disability. I'd find it difficult just trying to get myself through life.
But seriously, you people deserve a lot of credit. I understand raising these children can be a very frustrating, but rewarding experience.
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It takes place in this third world country called Canada where it is so cold 5-6 months of the year that well-to-do citizens travel south for the winter. While Steve and his lovely spouse are away for the winter, Steve’s son-in-law takes up illegal residency in his expensive house in a suburban Toronto community. He drives Steve’s expensive Mercedes, orders X-rated movies from Steve’s cable company, throws lavish late night parties, and even sleeps in Steve’s bed.
One day, a Toronto neighbor of Steve’s calls Steve in his warm climate winter residence and tells Steve all about the goings on at his home in the hinterlands. Steve finds out it’s his lousy SIL. This ire’s Steve to such an extent that he finally decides to rid the world of this menace!
The 15 episodes that follow are all about how Steve succeeds in his quest for an end to his miserable SIL’s existence.
There you have it - art imitating life in all its glory!
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jmonroe
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The good thing is that if you carry a high insurance limit the company supplies your lawyer.
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YOU GOT DRUNK AND ATE A DOG?!!!
How could you?
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But, there comes a point to where kids will take advantage. They will act out so you will give in or give them something...usually money. Sometimes, you do have to draw the line and realize that they may just be using you. Hopefully it will never get to that point.
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